Huraira Maneer’s Reviews > Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts > Status Update
Huraira Maneer
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Self-justification is blind, it preserves a positive self-image regardless of outcome
Each partner focuses on what the other one is doing wrong while justifying his or her own preferences
happy couples know how to manage their conflicts
Unhappy couples are pulled further apart by angry confrontations
the need for self-justification is preventing them from accepting the other’s position as legitimate.
— Dec 07, 2025 02:47PM
Each partner focuses on what the other one is doing wrong while justifying his or her own preferences
happy couples know how to manage their conflicts
Unhappy couples are pulled further apart by angry confrontations
the need for self-justification is preventing them from accepting the other’s position as legitimate.
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Huraira Maneer
is 62% done
Must stay on the hook for a while
Blind self-justification vs merciless sel-flagellation
Mind wants to justify soul wants to confess
Can override yearning to reduce dissonance, just as with sugar
Seek every objection
Admission produces delight
Responsibility-accepting apology - my/I
An error does not become a mistake until you refuse to correct it
Doctor, fears of law suits and damage to image of infallibility
— Dec 12, 2025 10:18AM
Blind self-justification vs merciless sel-flagellation
Mind wants to justify soul wants to confess
Can override yearning to reduce dissonance, just as with sugar
Seek every objection
Admission produces delight
Responsibility-accepting apology - my/I
An error does not become a mistake until you refuse to correct it
Doctor, fears of law suits and damage to image of infallibility
