Cathy A’s Reviews > Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life > Status Update

Chapter 12. Digital boundaries. This chapter was about having boundaries concerning smartphones mostly. Did I agree with it? In some ways yes and some ways no. I do not have to make a decision about digital boundaries for my children as they are grown. For my grandkids, I just have to abide by what their parents have decided. For myself, I am not concerned about digital boundaries. I use my smartphone ok.

Chapter 11. Boundaries at Work. It talks about how work is work and our life and relationships are separate. Work is not meant to fill our relationship bucket. At work, we need to be adults doing the job. Finding the work that suits us and where we can share our talents is vital.

Chapter 10. This was about children and boundaries. It was ok. I disagree with the writer’s heavy reliance on counseling in order to practice effective parenting and boundaries.

Chapter 9. This was on boundaries in marriage. This was a good chapter with good, relatable examples. I especially liked how he outlined the boundaries of power. I liked how he explained about getting in touch with our feelings about situations and sharing that with our spouses.

Not really digging it. I do not agree with some of the concepts set forth in Chapter 8 so I am doubting the writers wisdom on boundaries. It seems to be over complicating things and making some harsh statements and grounding them as truths but I differ in my opinion especially concerning family and friends.

Chapter 7. Talks about separating from family. I am obviously separated from family since mom and dad are gone. My kids…Josh is dependent on me financially, being in prison. Robin has been leaning on me financially. My babysitting could be a dependency but it is a gift given freely from me so that is in another category.

Chapter 6 is about Boundary Myths. I don’t get much out of this chapter. I have a growing feeling that I do not have as many issues with boundaries as I originally thought!

Chapter 4 was long and went into a lot of information on how our boundary formation is affected by how we are raised and in our early childhood development. My childhood had appropriate discipline. I do not feel I have boundary issues as a result of my childhood. The only part of my childhood that I would change would be more discipline with regard to doing chores and helping with household responsibilities.

In the third chapter, it talks about the different types of boundary problems and the different labels for people with boundary problems. I Ma a compliant (can’t say no) avoidant (can’t accept help). Very interesting and eye opening.

Good…but a lot. The second chapter delves into what boundaries are and how we let things in and out of our space. I especially liked the metaphor of the boulders of life versus the daily responsibilities of life. We need to accept help and offer help with the boulders of life and we need to shoulder ourselves the daily responsibilities of life.