Ellie McConnell’s Reviews > 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think > Status Update

“The idea of types and standards are proof that we’re just looking for somebody to play a role. Heartbreak is the aftermath of when somebody steps out of the very specific notion you had of them.”

“The secret to finding love was not to actually look for it, but to heal the things that were preventing you from seeing and receiving it.”

“Love magnifies and brings clarity to whatever is most present in your life. So if the things that are most present are self-doubt, justness, insecurity, etc., you will only have more and more of that. It is the avenue through which you share your life and see yourself.”

“A lot of people who want to “pursue passion” and find “passionate relationships” are seeking out of a place of lack.”

“The manic desire to do anything is usually an attempt to fill a hole, run from a problem, avoid a truth.”

“The manic need to pursue a passionate career is rooted in an intense unhappiness with present reality.”

“Logic can dismantle irrational, illogical, or painful emotions and bring you to a higher state of awareness by evaluating their roots/determining their causes, deciphering whether or not they are useful, or by actually listening to them and acting accordingly if that's what's best.
Passion tries to use emotions to dismantle others. A high to negate a low, a new feeling to replace an old one.”

“Logic helps you make decisions for the person you hope to be; passion helps you make decisions for the person you are or were.”

“Passion based relationships on the high; logic bases relationships on the purpose.”

“To fully move on from anything, you must be able to recognize what purpose it served & how it made you better.”

6 pillars on which self-esteem (continuing disposition to experience a sense of self-efficacy & respect for oneself) can be built:

1) Living Consciously: not controlled by shadow (subconscious biases & desires)

2) Self-acceptance

3) Self-responsibility: accountable for happiness

4) Self-assertiveness: born of confidence, not defensiveness (born of fear)

5) Living Purposefully

6) Personal Integrity

This whole essay would be a good one to ask on a date

“The pain of not having love is the pain of your heart being closed.”