Freddy Lam’s Reviews > Landscapes of the Soul: How the Science and Spirituality of Attachment Can Move You into Confident Faith, Courage, and Connection > Status Update
Freddy Lam
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Intimacy and independence, we are now getting into the quadrants and God’s imago dei, to seek him, serve him, and reconnect with him. The child experiencing a thunderstorm is an effective illustration about how intimacy builds courage for the next independence, and the water as metaphor for boiling over or freezing stiff describes the window of tolerance well. Rupture and repair, from Thompson caps it nicely.
— Dec 19, 2025 01:36PM
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Freddy Lam
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I believe in a jungle God, and I live the life of a jungle of anxiety. My go to is maybe so i am indecisive. Because everything is maybe, I pay extra hard to read people non-verbally, and dislike rules, logic. Relationship is most important and I can smother congregants and think for them, though I am learning not to do that. But I can also overread what’s not there, and beat myself up and feel shame easily.
— 14 hours, 39 min ago
Freddy Lam
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This chapter about joy is a reminder from all I’ve read from Curt Thompson, Jim Wilder, etc. on attunement from infancy, but in a more accessible language and with good illustration from the sons of the author. Number 6:24-26 about amplifying and returning to joy, and how too much presence can overload is a new thought. Everything in moderation, right?
— Dec 16, 2025 01:01PM
Freddy Lam
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Connection and Protection
Yes, Maybe, No
This first chapter sets the premise of Joy as attachment, and Desert, Wilderness, and Chaos for us to survive. I like the suggestion of the emotional wheel because often we can be at a lost for words. The two traps to growth of more information and/or willpower is true in my life. I am still hoping to be convinced the better vision (also in building habits) is the answer.
— Dec 12, 2025 10:34AM
Yes, Maybe, No
This first chapter sets the premise of Joy as attachment, and Desert, Wilderness, and Chaos for us to survive. I like the suggestion of the emotional wheel because often we can be at a lost for words. The two traps to growth of more information and/or willpower is true in my life. I am still hoping to be convinced the better vision (also in building habits) is the answer.
