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'I think there comes a point when all mothers realize this. We have the children that we have, not the ones we imagined we'd have or the ones we'd have liked, and they're the ones we end up having to contend with..sometimes children come to
us without us having planned it, as if someone had deposited an egg in our nest.'

"I would be lying if I said I didn't need her (my mother): when she's not around I feel I've lost my grip on the world. If you don't leave home you suffocate; if you go too far. you lose oxygen,' as Vivian Gornick said hitting the nail on the head"

"We daughters have a tendency to see in our mother's mistakes the source of all our problems, and our mothers tend to consider our defects as proof of a possible failure."

"There is a word to describe someone who loses their spouse, and a word for children who are left without parents. There is no word, however, for a parent who loses their child. Unlike previous centuries in which child mortality was very high, it's not normal for this to occur in our time. It is something so feared, so unacceptable, that we have chosen not to name it."