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Ask questions of those you want to do things- do not order them. How can we make this better? This process you just enacted, where do you think it’s weakness is?

Compliment those when giving negative news- people want to feel their efforts were recognized.

Dogs learn by positive feedback- so do humans. Genuinely take interest in people’s successes around you. Even at their faults, applaud them for the positives

Correct with compliments, not by coming down on others. Replace the word “but” with “and” to encourage others to improve.

When you want an outcome, guide them to the answer. Do not tell them not to smoke, give them your own anecdote with the negative of smoking

Speak in terms that others would want for themselves. An example would be “we wouldn’t want our kids to fall behind in school now” to get a parent to parent better. If you cannot sell the desire you want- sell the desire they want.

People want to succeed, it makes them feel important. Offer challenges for people to attack to get them to perform better

I do appreciate the overall message, but the repeated examples of random everyday people don’t relay the message to me in a way I resonate with.

I do appreciate the topics- Let others assist you by giving their ideas.

Also, truly put yourself in other people’s shoes. Would you react that way? All people are most likely justified in their thoughts based on their experiences

The last few chapters were boring. Talked about being nice to people first, getting them to say yes twice. The more you can agree on with someone, the closer they are to taking your side.

I did appreciate the section on talk less. The chapters were just repetitive with simple stories. Good lesson to remember in letting others talk.

Do not point out when others are wrong- judge them on what principles they have for themselves. They may view something differently than you.

If you did something wrong, apologize quickly. Accept fault and mercy will be given.

I appreciated the simplicity of the recent pages. In short- always smile as you do not know who needs it in their life. Call people by their name often- as that is their favorite word. Listen far more than you speak. People love to talk about themselves.
Most importantly- take genuine interest in others. Compliment with purpose. Ask to understand. Be excited about what others are excited about

Lots of examples of people thinkng of what others want around them first to obtain what they want.

Introduces the idea of how important being genuine and taking a true interest in others is

The author talks about a few things- appreciation of others being the first. To ensure you are continually letting people know of how well they are doing.

Think about what people are trying to achieve with their actions, they are all trying to satisfy something within themselves. Making up for some inadequacy.

Be sincere with compliments, and think about what they want. Not what you want. What they want is key

He introduces the “feeling of importance”
Everyone is seeking this feeling. The feeling is brought up to everyone differently. I think of the languages of love as a common simple feeling of importance for people.