Cathy A’s Reviews > Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life > Status Update

Chapter 17. It goes through a day in the life of Sherrie with boundaries in place and the difference they make. I liked it. The only things that are not relatable for me are the references to counseling and group therapy. It would be a better self help book without that and with self help options.

Chapter 15. There were a lot of references in here that did not resonate with me and a lot that did. I especially liked the reference of how change has to come from us, not others. And how persevering through the hard stuff pays off.

Chapter 14. This chapter was long and preachy. It was about the boundaries we set with God and others we are in relationship with. I found myself just wanting this chapter to be over. I dislike the very end that basically said we live in harmony with God when we are both in our own lanes and respecting the others boundaries.

Chapter 12. Digital boundaries. This chapter was about having boundaries concerning smartphones mostly. Did I agree with it? In some ways yes and some ways no. I do not have to make a decision about digital boundaries for my children as they are grown. For my grandkids, I just have to abide by what their parents have decided. For myself, I am not concerned about digital boundaries. I use my smartphone ok.

Chapter 11. Boundaries at Work. It talks about how work is work and our life and relationships are separate. Work is not meant to fill our relationship bucket. At work, we need to be adults doing the job. Finding the work that suits us and where we can share our talents is vital.

Chapter 10. This was about children and boundaries. It was ok. I disagree with the writer’s heavy reliance on counseling in order to practice effective parenting and boundaries.

Chapter 9. This was on boundaries in marriage. This was a good chapter with good, relatable examples. I especially liked how he outlined the boundaries of power. I liked how he explained about getting in touch with our feelings about situations and sharing that with our spouses.

Not really digging it. I do not agree with some of the concepts set forth in Chapter 8 so I am doubting the writers wisdom on boundaries. It seems to be over complicating things and making some harsh statements and grounding them as truths but I differ in my opinion especially concerning family and friends.

Chapter 7. Talks about separating from family. I am obviously separated from family since mom and dad are gone. My kids…Josh is dependent on me financially, being in prison. Robin has been leaning on me financially. My babysitting could be a dependency but it is a gift given freely from me so that is in another category.

Chapter 6 is about Boundary Myths. I don’t get much out of this chapter. I have a growing feeling that I do not have as many issues with boundaries as I originally thought!