Jenn Harnden’s Reviews > Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex > Status Update

chapter 4 has HANDS.

What I had called feminism was spite and fear disguised as performance. It was partly about verifying for myself what everyone else said was possible about sex separate from love. (Though, since I had not actually felt attracted to this man, it never reassured my fears about what being sexually attracted to others meant.) It was also about control and distance and ego and politics and insecurity

and what if I told you I want to throw a tantrum

"Convinced that Henry would fall in love with someone else after sleeping with them, any mention of sexual attraction—his or anyone else’s—prompted tortured projections of abandonment."

demisexuality has taken me to places you wouldn't want to go with a gun