Rachel Wall’s Reviews > It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life > Status Update

“When we admit that our minds may have gotten the best of us, we can tame our fear and make room for the better part of our minds— the part that is open to seeing things differently— to take over” (p. 36).

“The truth is, you ultimately decide who your ‘one’ will be. And when you do decide, my hope is that you choose the one who gives you the support and freedom you need to fully express yourself in the world, so you never have to suppress who you are and pretend to be anyone you are not. Love isn’t just a feeling—it’s an intentional practice, a daily ritual, a verb” (p. 62).

“If we don’t discipline our minds, we can easily fail to see the person we love. Instead, we’ll see our mother, our father, or an ex. Our task is to challenge ourselves to question some of our narratives about the other person and, instead, communicate. Because if we don’t, we’ll build up a whole lot of mental and physical resistance against our partner. This resistance leads to resentment” (p. 36).

“For some of us, our fear of not being enough will motivate us to figure out a way to be ~needed~ in our relationships. So instead of looking for a project—someone we can fix, so we can be the hero and they can depend on us and never leave us” (p. 24). CLOCKED! ⏰