Marquise > Status Update

I think you should do whatever makes you happy, Marquise. If you’re happy, we’re happy.

I think you've already given this enough thought to know what the best balance for you should be right. And if you feel that balance needs changing after a while, you can always make some adjustments.

Thibault wrote: "I think you've already given this enough thought to know what the best balance for you should be right..."

True, my dear Thibu. I do like sharing my thoughts, though, even if I've already made a decision, because I like to hear y'all and because there's always the chance that someone amongst you has a better idea that would suit me best. <3

I agree with Thibault that if it makes you happy you should do it. However, I would also remind you that part of the struggle you've been dealing with is unfriendly people causing chaos in your life unnecessarily, so please do what is best to protect yourself and your interests. <3

I'd advise just to post comments on your website, but you can do whatever you think best.

I would miss your updates. But GR hides the their thread and the full chain of conversations bellow them anyway. So probably if you stop you will have mire time for reviews and other non GR activities. Do what makes your time (the scarcest resource in this earth) more productive.

I'd leave them and just turn off notifications of new comments on the updates. I forget whether there's a blanket way to do that, though. If not, you'll have to go to each one and untick the "Notify me when people comment" box. If that's the only way, maybe just do it for the most popular ones, at least to start.

Emiliya wrote: "But GR hides the their thread and the full chain of conversations bellow them anyway."

You can open threads with a single click, though. Or am I misunderstanding you?

Do what feels right to ya 🫂 would miss your reviews. Sometimes I save the page link to read later if I don't have the spoons.

@ Marquise.. I think when you get into these types of questions, you're confusing and frustrating yourself about the situation, because you really aren't ready nor wanting to leave..

You need to set a clear line in the sand about what will make you leave here. Keep it simple. If you want to continue these Q&A touchstones here, then do that but just don't review here any longer. If you want to continue posting reviews here but not do these touchstones, then do that.

If it's all too complicated then just delete your account when you're absolutely ready to jump..

Like me, I have my line. I am leaving when reviews/groups are next on the chopping block on GR. Which is why I set up a review profile elsewhere so I will have a place to jump when it's time for me to leave for good.

I am just leaving it at that. I love the community here, but pretty soon all of this will be gone anyway. So I'm just being realistic and preparing myself for that eventuality.. It sucks cause I've been here since 2009, but that is where we are right now, today with this site.

I think you should do what makes you feel comfortable.

Charlton wrote: "I think you should do what makes you feel comfortable."

Of course, I already made a decision. <3

~*~Princess Nya Vasiliev~*~ wrote: "@ Marquise.. I think when you get into these types of questions, you're confusing and frustrating yourself about the situation, because you really aren't ready nor wanting to leave.. "

I do have that clear line in the sand, or I wouldn't be leaving. The decision is made and I'm not walking it back, but it does feel like defeat after having tried all the possible ways I had to stay.

I am ready to leave, but I don't want to. Never made a secret of not wanting to leave. And the reason I don't want to leave is the community here, or I'd have been gone 3 years ago when my 'leave/not leave' struggle started largely triggered by continuous cyberbullying and compounded by the Ava Reid incident. People have no idea how much it affected me, and at the time the sensible way out was to leave. I took a break and decided to stay, and I did it for my friends here.

But there comes a moment when you have to prioritise yourself, and with the bad year that was 2025, I reached my limit and the line in the sand was crossed.

I was reading the news earlier and they were talking about how female relatives of political prisoners in Venezuela had to "allow" prison guards to rape them in exchange for seeing their imprisoned relatives. That's horrific, and I don't want to make a comparison, that's nowhere on the same level that I went through here, not in the least. But it illustrates one thing that is often missed: people are willing to put up with much abuse for the sake of a minute or two with those they love.

I put up with a lot here, much trolling, harrassment by DMs, public humiliation by former "friends," private blaming me for causing my own issues, scolding over the way I talk and interact, authors attacking me under my reviews, an influencer doing an entire episode about a review, etc., etc. That's a lot of abuse. And for what? For a few loyal friends who genuinely like me.

I'm definitely not walking back, no. In a way these updates are a sort of mourning my departure because of the loss, it's not indecision at all and sorry if it sounds like that. <3

TL *Humaning the Best She Can* wrote: "Do what feels right to ya 🫂 would miss your reviews. Sometimes I save the page link to read later if I don't have the spoons."

Hehe, I also save pages for reading later too. 🫂 Some reviewers here are soooo talented! I'll bookmark my fave reviewers for keeping up to date on their reviews, easier than following them all over the online planet.

Caroline wrote: "I'd leave them and just turn off notifications of new comments on the updates. I forget whether there's a blanket way to do that, though. If not, you'll have to go to each one and untick the "Notif..."

Oh, no, I wasn't referring to deleting or keeping the Question updates. I meant keep doing them, that is: new ones. I have zero concerns about the old threads, they were fun and stay as is. :)

Emiliya wrote: "I would miss your updates. But GR hides the their thread and the full chain of conversations bellow them anyway. So probably if you stop you will have mire time for reviews and other non GR activit..."

Yeah, concentrating only on the reviews and interacting with the friends that still follow me is the idea. The keeping the updates idea was more of a passing thought because so many of you have told me they loved them and will miss them. They were fun. :)

Theoretically, they could be done on the website as well, but the commenting and engagement wouldn't be the same.

Meredith wrote: "I'd advise just to post comments on your website, but you can do whatever you think best."

Uh? I don't think I fully understood what you mean, but I do have a fair idea.

Mariella wrote: "However, I would also remind you that part of the struggle you've been dealing with is unfriendly people causing chaos in your life..."

Yeah, you more than anyone else know how that cursed year 2025 was truly like, doll. <3

Marquise wrote: "TL *Humaning the Best She Can* wrote: "Do what feels right to ya 🫂 would miss your reviews. Sometimes I save the page link to read later if I don't have the spoons."

Hehe, I also save pages for re..."
:) 👍🏼 👍🏼

Some really are yeah :)

I think you should create your own book app/website with all the things everyone else has miserably failed at. Then everyone here will join and we will all be happy! It can’t be that difficult, right? 😅

Victoria wrote: "I think you should create your own book app/website with all the things everyone else has miserably failed at. Then everyone here will join and we will all be happy!"

Hahaha! Oh, that would complicate my life and I don't have the kind of money or time to even think of that idea. 😅

At least I can make my website a hub for fairy tellers little by little, which is one of my goals.

I hope you continue posting. Whenever the mood strikes you, or you feel the need to share something with your friends. That being said, you have to prioritize your mental health. Do what's best for you.
(still hoping you'll stay)

"I think the best idea is to reply to comments on my reviews as my only engagement here."
Sounds sensible to this old guy, Marquise🤩.

As much as I like your weekly questions Marquise, I think your happiness and protection from the bad actors is paramount. Whatever you decide, will be the best.

Oh shoot I completely missed the boat I didn’t know you decided to leave? Honestly though, harassment and online abuse is not worth anything so I wholly support your decision. Are you going elsewhere or simply not tracking reading anymore? Take care! Hope you stay safe and happy (especially in your new home) xxx

Terence M [Quot libros, quam breve tempus!] wrote: ""I think the best idea is to reply to comments on my reviews as my only engagement here."
Sounds sensible to this old guy, Marquise🤩."

Hehehe, one sensible thing I do for once. 🤣 Thank you, dear Terence!

:D
I'll be here bc I need to write a lot of reviews and ngl, there is no other site better than GR even though they piss us off so much ughhhh!! Like hey- what are they getting from all this!! :(
I have recently created a booksta and fable. The links to all my socials are on my linktr.ee on my profile. :)

You can actually make private/secret groups here with only your friends or maybe one to one friend chats. That's what I did:)

Vanessa wrote: "As much as I like your weekly questions Marquise, I think your happiness and protection from the bad actors is paramount. Whatever you decide, will be the best."

Thank you, Vanessa, you're very kind. <3

C wrote: "Are you going elsewhere or simply not tracking reading anymore?"

I'm basically doing a big overhaul of my entire reviewing habits and moving to my own website, where I'll be posting my reviews. I won't do any more full reviews here, only post links to redirect traffic to my place and reply to comments/stay in touch with friends who aren't going anywhere.

You can still follow me at my blog (link in bio) and either comment there or drop me a line here when I come to post links. <3

Persephone's Pomegranate wrote: "(still hoping you'll stay)"

Doing like you do here was a possibility I considered, but it wouldn't have suited me. I need to move forth, not stay tethered to a place that has long outlived its high point in the cycle for me.

Saranya ⋆☕︎ ˖ wrote: "You can actually make private/secret groups here with only your friends or maybe one to one friend chats. That's what I did:)"

Oh, yes! I am a member of one such group. We're like half a dozen stray cats there, but it's not active, and groups will be next on the chopping block by Amazon. I don't trust this place anymore.

There's also Discord groups people from here are creating, I'll join some down the road if invited.

GR frustrates me to no extent-- every change just makes it crappier. That stated, I will miss you questions 😁Do what you feel is best; live moves on whether we like it or not. Cheers!

Phil wrote: "GR frustrates me to no extent-- every change just makes it crappier. That stated, I will miss you questions 😁Do what you feel is best; live moves on whether we like it or not. Cheers!"

Thank you, dear Phil! <3 I know I can count on you to stay in touch in some fashion. :)

What is the best decision for your peace of mind? If it's only going to continue frustrating you, maybe don't do it. Your well being is important.

Your questions are one of the highlights of GR; I would miss them. But you should do what is best for you.

I second Fred.