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“In actuality, nurturance—the ability to care for another in a matter that enhances well-being—is a learned behaviour. Men learn it as well as women. Patriarchal culture is reinforced when males are not taught ways to nurture and care for others.”

“Girls learn how to be ‘mothers’ by imitating female caretakers and by ritual play with dolls. Male children are not consistently taught how to nurture. Instead they are most often aggressively socialized to reject nurturance and choose domination. War games and all games of pretend violence teach boys that their role is to take life when necessary.”

she makes a lot of sweeping statements which are lowkey annoying

“Ongoing male violence against females daily stands as public testimony to the failure of the feminist movement to convert and change the hearts of men.”

“Our reasons for thinking this were rooted in tremendous fears about growing up, about becoming grown women. We wanted to be girls forever. As girls we felt we had powerb[…] It confirms that young girls often feel strong, courageous, highly creative, and powerful until they begin to receive undermining sexist messages that encourage them to conform to conventional notions of femininity.”