Damien 明心’s Reviews > How Not to F*ck Up Your Marriage: Straight talk from a divorce lawyer who’s seen it all > Status Update

Chp19 Facebook is a great force for infidelity. It allows a filtered window into the lives of others. Many avenues of temptation. Chp20 Sex is a pillar of marriage. Similarity in libido for frequency and intensity are important. Predictable sex can kill a sex life. Chp 22 Bad lawyers are more expensive. If you don't want to improve your marriage, let this threat of a terrible outcome in a law court be incentive.

Chp16 You can change the way you are in the relationship, the other, or end it. Couples therapy often doesn't work and worse it gives the other party advanced notice in a divorce. Changing the way the other person is in the relationship can involve rewards of sex, travel, or a compliment the way they shave their face well like it's Don Draper as opposed to saying they don't like the scruff.

Chp11 Go w/out or go elsewhere. When having a kink or fetish consider actually telling your partner about it. pp. 72-74 has details for conversation. If it seems not good enough to live without consider the alternative of a breakup. Chp 12 In a monogamous marriage, if you had to keep a car for a lifetime, it would change your choice of car, eg. Cadillac vs Ferrari. Choice in Dates vs marriage is different.

Chp7 You can't read minds, and shouldn't accept appearances. Chp8 have time away from the kids. Chp8/9 everyone is f*cking the nanny. Chp10 Married couples can rotate custody of the kids. It allows space to be/focus on yourself. When with kids it makes you focus on your time with them, brings out individual character in parenting.

Lessons learnt so far. Chp3 If something upsets you talk about it sooner, immediately if possible before it spirals into something worse. Chp6 Have space and time to be yourself, have your identity and space away from each other as it was what had an atttactive force. Now onto chp7.