aubrey’s Reviews > The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About > Status Update

“Stop trying to change people who don’t want to change. It’s time to let adults be adults. Stop trying to rescue those who are struggling. It’s time to let others heal how they need to heal. Stop wasting your time trying to get people to love you. It’s time to choose the love you deserve.”

WHATEVER

“You’re accepting less than the love you deserve. You’re chasing people who won’t commit, or pouring time into people who don’t love you back, or refusing to accept the person that you’re with and learn how to love them as they are.”

we accept the love we think we deserve 😭😭😭

“One of the fundamental principles of the Let Them Theory is that people’s behavior tells you exactly where you stand in their life. You need to understand: This is very black and white. You are either a priority, or you are not. There is no middle ground.”

and i been saying this

“It also takes bravery to see that someone’s not interested in you. It takes confidence to remind yourself that texting you is easy—but if they truly wanted to see you, they would be making plans.”

if they wanted to they would exactly

“People only change when they are ready to make that change for themselves. Stop punishing them for not changing on your timeline. Stop trying to “motivate” them into doing something they clearly don’t want to do.
It is a waste of your time. It is stressing you out.”

as a control freak personally i hate this 😭😭 wdym i told u to change and ur not 😭😭💔🥀

“Friendships are not a tit for tat. Do not keep score. Reach out to people because you want to. But don’t expect a response.”

i would hardly call not continuing to put yourself out there over and over again for someone who does not make time for you or prioritize your relationship/friendship in any capacity “tit for tat”… energy and effort needs to by reciprocated for it to truly work

“The mistake that we make is that we start to obsess over what is wrong, instead of just focusing on acceptance, kindness, and admiration for the other person. Just because you were best friends during one stage of your life doesn’t mean you will be best friends during the next stage.”

killing myself

“No one is taking anything from you. Happiness, success, and money are waiting for you to get serious about creating them. I will say this again: No one else’s wins are your losses. That’s why you have to change the way you look at other people’s success.”

this is a very ignorant mindset to have and makes me think robbins is addressing a very specific demographic iykwim… not fucking with it at all

“You’re allowing somone else’s outbursts, guilt trips, and reactions to dictate your actions, leading you to constantly manage their emotions rather than focusing on your own. This means you’re always prioritizing the emotional needs of others at the expense of your own happiness.”

i’m in this excerpt and i don’t like it