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"I do believe in the Buddhist idea that pain comes from a failure to see things as they really are."

"Every day is a different picture where you have to tune into where you are and resist the urge to drape shame or sadness around the things you find when you look at your feelings."

"The problem is, if you say to yourself, 'I don't want to hear about your pain because I don't complain about mine, then that's the death of love."

"You can be seen by various people in different ways, and no one person, not even your parents, can really see the whole of who you are. So it's about finding all the different people you can love, and seeing the positivity each of them brings to your life."

i was dismayed to see Mr. AdB here but he is much more articulate and to-the-point here than in his own books

oh man i love this book

"After years of feeling passive in love, I understood then that we do have a choice, even if it’s difficult to see. Mine was this: to stay in the fantasies inside my head, or to climb out and live."

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mhm...