asmalldyke’s Reviews > Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy > Status Update
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Do We Want To Be Attachment-Based Partners? You didn't exactly ask, so. It's good to ask.
— Mar 28, 2026 03:26PM
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Ah, but where was this book's advice for self soothing when a partner does not answer the phone when I was dying of anxiety in a long distance relationship a decade ago??? Where was it then?????
— Mar 30, 2026 07:10PM
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It's an allosexual world and we're just living in it, I guess.
— Mar 30, 2026 01:16PM
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I legit wonder if I've talked to people who read this, because so much of it I have heard of prior.
— Mar 28, 2026 06:41PM
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My eyes fully bursting from my skull at seeing Internal Family Systems and Parts mentioned here, of all places. The ground I'm treading isn't short of footprints, itself.
— Mar 28, 2026 05:44PM
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"making sense of your own story"?! "coherent narrative of our past experiences"?!? But what if my autobiographical memory is catastrophically full of holes and I barely remember anything before 20....... what then...
— Mar 28, 2026 05:31PM
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Oh, I like that this book is like "we're gonna talk about healthy attachment to the self but it's not to exclude the healing power of securely attached relationships tho", I like that. Nice.
— Mar 28, 2026 05:26PM
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Oh, do polycules just have a really big bed, like a floor-spanning thing? Do they swap spooning partners per night or smth? Much to think abt......
— Mar 28, 2026 05:07PM
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Polysecure really did say 'be sure to gaze upon your partners in a loving, gay kinda way' which is adorable and I fully support but tough for autistic people and other eye-contact-averse dorks.
— Mar 28, 2026 04:49PM
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Kinda sigh-of-relief feeling seeing that there is supposed to be a choice, with regard to attachment in partners. I would have said "no fuckin' way", and that would have been easier. Intentional discussions.
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