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I also think another part that makes this a hard read for me honestly is that African patriarchy is differentttttt😭 will show you pepper! I think it’s good for men to read but idk if I’ll be finishing… I fully get the points she’s making because duh patriarchy does hurt men immensely. Maybe I’m just not ready yet but this is not labor I’m willing to do lol

Speaking of the manosphere…
I also think a lot of girls relate to the problems she discusses here.
I think I’m just having a hard time with this book. I appreciate the challenge but I fear it’s not my job to make a feminist out of a man. Yes men are hurt deeply by patriarchy but their hurt sometimes results in such ferocious violence against women that I’m just having a hard time reconciling.

Normally related to this book but Drag makes it clear how much of a performance gender is

Masculinity =/ patriarchal masculinity

Almost lost me for a second but I’m right back!

Reading chapter 1 and I guess it’s good to be challenged but genuinely wrf is bell hooks on?😭