Nikita Amin’s Reviews > Who's the Favorite?: The Loving, Messy Realities of Sibling Relationships > Status Update
Nikita Amin
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“It is important to think a bit about how the simple idea of ‘not behaving in the way that this family expects' can actually be more complex than that. It can often be a case of 'you’re not performing your role in the way that allows this family to repeatedly paper over the cracks and carry on in the way it always has. In instances like that, making any kind of stand can be confronting and very uncomfortable”
— Apr 25, 2026 05:30PM
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Nikita Amin
is on page 277 of 336
‘Memories are the stories we tell ourselves, and they are the building blocks of the self. But if you can't remember the stories, ‘who are you?'
And what happens if there’s huge parts of your childhood years that you can’t remember?
— Apr 26, 2026 07:50AM
And what happens if there’s huge parts of your childhood years that you can’t remember?
Nikita Amin
is on page 277 of 336
“Kenneth Doka coined the phrase ‘disenfranchised grief' - the grief that persons experience when they incur a loss that is not or cannot be openly acknowledged, publicly mourned, or socially supported.” - the hierarchy of grief is very relatable, especially when you’re in a situation where it appears that others need looking after more than you
— Apr 26, 2026 07:49AM
Nikita Amin
is on page 267 of 336
“What can be really damaging is a family dynamic where parents play siblings off against one another, where they feel like they've been pitted against each other for "who will be a winner and win the parents love?", or “who can do the most?" That can lead them to feel as if their long-term sibling relationship is really strained.” - hard relate
— Apr 25, 2026 05:31PM
Nikita Amin
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I’m not sure if my siblings and I have any familects.. definitely food for thought
— Apr 19, 2026 02:48PM
Nikita Amin
is on page 91 of 336
“Memories are shaped by the self who is doing the remembering and when the person’s beliefs and emotions change so does the story” - I never considered this before. I assumed that the memory stays as we remembered it when it happened because it’s attached to the feelings you had at that time.
— Apr 17, 2026 03:02PM
Nikita Amin
is on page 88 of 336
Childhood memory - this really resonated with me that a memory isn’t just what happened but a “reconstruction that reflects yourself and how you want to be seen”, so if someone disputes “facts” it can be a challenge to the “entire sense of who we are and how we stand in relation to other people”. Think this is quite telling in sibling relationships because the same event can be seen so differently
— Apr 17, 2026 02:50PM
