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Access your feelings: ikigai

The polyvagal theory, page 72

Things that move you up or down the ladder, page 84–85

Window of tolerance

Calming breathwork
* Box breathing (square breathing)
* Diaphragmatic breathing (belly breathing)

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT): tapping

A few questions to ask yourself when you're feeling uncertain include the following:
• What if it DID work out?
• What's the worst that would happen if it failed or did not go according to plan?
• What signs in your body can you recognise when it's either a ‘hell yeah’ or a ‘yuck, no’? Note these down with brief examples… what are you feeling when you do something fun or something against your values or interests?

The right conditions to thrive
When we buy a houseplant, there are always instructions on where to position it. We take notice, and pop it in a space where it will flourish. Why, as humans, do we not afford ourselves the same treatment? Why are we expected to all thrive in the same situations, and when we don't we are blamed?

We have to acknowledge that our energy is finite. This is true for everyone, but especially so for those of us with ADHD. We can't give what we don't have: that leads to burnout.

Something that has helped me over the past few years is understanding my patterns and acknowledging that if I have powered through using my reserves to get over the line, I need to recognise the toll it takes on me afterwards and prepare for this. So instead of scheduling in another similar day straight after, I accept that if I have a crazy day or two…"

…depleted, prioritise rest and relaxation. It may not work every time, but the more that you can practise mindfully engaging with tasks, the easier this process will become.