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Tyler Detrick
is on page 174 of 288
“In Dan Allender’s book, he noted that every child is asking at least two core questions: (1) Am I loved? And (2) Can I get my own way? As adults, we continue to ask very similar questions. The role of attunement in relationships is to tell others, “Yes, you are loved.” And the role of containment is to mature us by letter others know, “You will not always get what you want from me.”
— May 20, 2026 06:58AM
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Tyler Detrick
is on page 165 of 288
“One of the standard treatment recommendations for those who struggle with unwanted sexual behavior is to have sixty to ninety days of abstinence from sexual behavior” (165).
— May 20, 2026 06:44AM
Tyler Detrick
is on page 161 of 288
“Many recovery programs fail because they are preoccupied with telling people what to avoid. True recovery is not about quarantine of the body but about its restoration” (161).
— May 20, 2026 06:35AM
Tyler Detrick
is on page 144 of 288
Shame is the leading predictor for unwanted sexual behavior. How to deal with shame? Don’t ignore- face it! How to deal with a great white shark swimming at us? Counterintuitive but effective- swim directly at it!! Don’t swim away from shame- pursue it (145).
— May 19, 2026 10:56AM
Tyler Detrick
is on page 142 of 288
“As you begin the transformation, please know that this is not a one-week, one-month, or even one year process. Who you are today is the result of decades of formation, and the best research we have says the best recovery journeys take two to three years for the participant to feel as though he has his life back to a stable place” (142).
— May 19, 2026 09:43AM
Tyler Detrick
is on page 134 of 288
“Pornography is not any less damaging than street prostitution; it merely distances the user from the debasement and exploitation these women undergo every day. As researcher Melissa Farley noted, ‘Pornography is pictures of prostitution,’” (135).
— May 19, 2026 07:27AM
Tyler Detrick
is on page 129 of 288
Flip phones, accountability, and software are kinds of practical actions which “will need to be pursued… These actions will not necessarily reduce your draw toward unwanted sexual behavior. Instead, they create barriers to keep the waters of sexual content from drowning you as you seek to rebuild the foundations of your life” (129).
— May 19, 2026 07:14AM
Tyler Detrick
is on page 127 of 288
Pornographers lure “unsuspecting children to pornographic sites based in a child’s common misspelling or typos” (127).
— May 19, 2026 07:10AM
Tyler Detrick
is on page 122 of 288
Excellent depiction of how our experiences play out in real life on pages 122-126.
— May 19, 2026 06:38AM
Tyler Detrick
is starting
“The six core experiences of deprivation, dissociation, unconscious arousal, lust, and anger reveal the why behind your current unwanted sexual behavior. These are the stories that await your engagement” (106).
— May 19, 2026 06:30AM
Tyler Detrick
is starting
“Want to find out why you’re so compelled to pursue unwanted sexual behavior? Figure out what’s made you so angry” (104).
— May 19, 2026 06:27AM
