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7. Silent treatment (form of passive aggressive & punishment for setting boundaries)
How to deal: verbalize it “you seem upset, can we talk”, offer feedback of why you set the boundary
8. Acceptance (Healthiest way & show respecting your needs)
Both sides need to accept boundaries.
— Jun 03, 2026 12:12PM
How to deal: verbalize it “you seem upset, can we talk”, offer feedback of why you set the boundary
8. Acceptance (Healthiest way & show respecting your needs)
Both sides need to accept boundaries.
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5. Defensiveness.
How to talk to them: make it about you, use I statements, talk about 1 issue at a time, you feel statement, mention issue right away don’t let it sit, know your audience (in person, text..)
6. Ghosting (Passive aggressive) reaction.
Ex: cancel plans, not responding, leaving you out.
Deal: express how ghosting makes u feel, remind yourself it’s about them not you.
— Jun 03, 2026 11:56AM
How to talk to them: make it about you, use I statements, talk about 1 issue at a time, you feel statement, mention issue right away don’t let it sit, know your audience (in person, text..)
6. Ghosting (Passive aggressive) reaction.
Ex: cancel plans, not responding, leaving you out.
Deal: express how ghosting makes u feel, remind yourself it’s about them not you.
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Another ways people can react to your boundaries:
2. Limit testing your boundary (make you reconsider or argue against) —> be clear of your position, express how test limit makes you feel, name your boundary without offering an explanation.
3. Ignoring —> Be assertive, mention again your boundary, restate it.
4. Rationalizing & Questioning. No need to explain, keep it short or say no longer accepted.
— Jun 03, 2026 11:49AM
2. Limit testing your boundary (make you reconsider or argue against) —> be clear of your position, express how test limit makes you feel, name your boundary without offering an explanation.
3. Ignoring —> Be assertive, mention again your boundary, restate it.
4. Rationalizing & Questioning. No need to explain, keep it short or say no longer accepted.
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Part 1: Chapter 1
How to set clear boundaries: Communication (Assertive statements, verbally communicate your boundary) + followed by Actions (back it up with behavior/action to make others respect your boundaries) = it’s your responsibility to follow through.
Adjust to people’s reactions to your boundary: deal with push backs.
— Jun 03, 2026 11:39AM
How to set clear boundaries: Communication (Assertive statements, verbally communicate your boundary) + followed by Actions (back it up with behavior/action to make others respect your boundaries) = it’s your responsibility to follow through.
Adjust to people’s reactions to your boundary: deal with push backs.
