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Rage is another impaired expression of fear. It results from refusing to face our fear of vulnerability. Rage is a psychological expression that defends against vulnerability by disconnecting or denying true fear.
Rage and anger are not the same thing.
Rage rejects the fear of having desire, anger is an acknowledgment of the depth of our desire.

Darkness isn't what the child fears so much.
He fears being in the darkness alone.
Vulnerability to need, once it has been rejected, becomes the object of fear. But in place of facing our fear through relationship, we grow anxious for control over our fears.
Darkness then becomes the problem, when originally not having vulnerability honored was the real problem.

The benefit of awareness and truthfulness is that you and I see that no one is the king or queen. In fact, each of us is royalty and servant. Each of us has value - each has gifts and the need to give them.
This paradox - that in our weakness begins our strength, in our fear begins our wisdom - is transforming truth.

Impaired anger.
Anger's impaired states, depression and pride, express contempt for our passion and vulnerability.
Depression pushes passion back into the heart.
Pride denies the vulnerability revealed in anger.
Both impaired states are attempts to fight the heart's powerful desire for life, which is clearly revealed in anger.

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"Self-pity is an attempt to manipulate others into taking responsibility for our heart's response and neediness. It’s an attempt to be valued, but with others doing all the work. Because we have been taught to mistake sadness for self-pity, we often dismiss our need to feel sadness as something to be hidden or denied an attempt to block the appearance of self-pity."

Sadness is proportional - the more sadness you feel after a loss, the more you value what is lost. The more you live an open hearted life of fullness, the more you lose. Sadness gives us the gift of valuing and honoring life.

The loneliness arouses an emotional and spiritual hunger to be received, known, and loved by another. It is a hunger to be accepted as we are. If we are accepted and enjoyed for who we truly are, then we cannot help but find replenishment. we will likewise be filled emotionally and spiritually. We will be compelled to share our passion for life and do good things through relationships with others.

"It is my responsibility to deal truthfully with hurt. No amount of pretending, denying, or lying will change the truth. Hurt moves the heart towards healing. Vulnerability to hurt initiates a balm for your pain. You step into the hope that God can do for you what you cannot do."

So good!

"Self-esteem is something we manufacture in order to create a sense of control or power. it offers a false sense of worth based not on our inborn gifts, but on our achievements only: "I did; therefore I am." This is the opposite of God and what God made us to be: "I am; therefore I do."