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You don't think people change,you say,or ever really can?
I think people change,he says,for sure,but only ever become, essentially, more themselves.
You don't know if that thought is comforting or profoundly sad.
Then where's the hope,you say,if we can never truly begin again,or become,I don't know,something else or better?
He shrugs, and smiles.Each moment,I guess,he says. Each moment, here now, that's what we have.
— Jun 13, 2026 04:25AM
I think people change,he says,for sure,but only ever become, essentially, more themselves.
You don't know if that thought is comforting or profoundly sad.
Then where's the hope,you say,if we can never truly begin again,or become,I don't know,something else or better?
He shrugs, and smiles.Each moment,I guess,he says. Each moment, here now, that's what we have.
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Maria wrote: "Ilse, hope you’ve been well.It’s an interesting thought. I think we really can change, little by little, through small actions or tiny shifts. That’s how we become our best selves — without the masks."
Dear Maria, thank you, I dearly hope you are well? Apart from living under a rock the last months, which have been pretty tough (exhausted from work and not much of improvement in sight), all's been ok here - I long for some rest :).
Those changes, it's a beautiful thought, that it is possible that we can become our best selves, slowly, with tiny changes - I just wonder what sets such in motion, is it a conscious path of steps we take, or circumstances that require a response - and change - from us that we wouldn't have been able to if not put there? The discussion intrigued me: a young woman and a man twice her age, sitting next to each other on a flight, wonder about still feeling the same, at every age. The man gives a quite Nietzschean answer, the 'become what you are' - while the young woman seems to hope that not she, but her partner will change - maybe there is some despair in her words, that there is no hope he will.
It’s an interesting thought. I think we really can change, little by little, through small actions or tiny shifts. That’s how we become our best selves — without the masks.
Thank you.