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How is this?

Hey Demetrius! Long response coming:

This is an idea that came up in the book. From my understanding, the idea is that some former geeks can become the worst womanizers because of a major shift in how they're treated. When they were “geeks,” they may have felt overlooked, unwanted, or excluded. They didn't get much attention, especially in the dating department, so they developed a feeling that they were missing out.

Then, when they become more attractive, confident, successful, or socially skilled, the attention starts coming. Instead of being satisfied with it, some end up overcompensating. They feel like they have to make up for lost time. The attention becomes a form of validation for insecurities they carried for years.

In a way, it's a reward pathway. If you spend a long time feeling undesirable and then suddenly people want you, that attention can be incredibly rewarding. It can become a cycle: attention feels good, so you seek more of it. The more validation you get, the more you chase it. In that sense, womanizing isn't always about sex; sometimes it's about constantly proving to yourself that you're finally wanted.