Grace’s Reviews > Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent > Status Update

Consent as the rubric for our thinking about sex ignores a crucial aspect of being a person: that individuals do not bear equal relationships of power to one another.

A sexual ethics that is worth its name has to allow for obscurity, for opacity and for not-knowing. We need to start from this very premise – this risky, complex premise: that we shouldn’t have to know ourselves in order to be safe from violence.