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If we appreciated the powerful feelings sexuality can unleash, we would be appropriately nervous at the outset. Sex should be both revered and feared, evoke both anticipation and apprehension, be a cause for both celebration and caution.

Without a functioning trigger in the brain for alarm a person's impulses to attack are likely to erupt in violent forms.
The impact of alcohol illustrates this relationship. The sense of alarm that holds aggressive impulses in check is numbed by alcohol…

Only when the futility sinks in and we apprehend on the deepest emotional level the impossibility of preserving physical and emotional contact with someone forever gone from our lives do the tears come and adaptation begins. This process may take years.

We often learn to hide our tears as adults, but the impulse to cry is hardwired to feelings of futility…

The tears of futility are set off by different neurological circuitry and are psychologically unique…

They are accompanied by a shift in energy: a backing-off from trying to change things…

They signal that the brain truly apprehends that something is not working and must be let go of.

Peter could not assimilate the idea of work because the concept requires mixed feelings.
Work is often not very attractive, but we generally do it because we can mix our resistance to it in the moment with a commitment purpose we may have in mind for the long term.

Carl Jung explained that we tend to attack in others what we are most uncomfortable with in ourselves. When vulnerability is the enemy, it is attacked wherever it is perceived, even in a best friend.

Figuring out what we want has to begin with having the freedom to not want.

We must never intentionally make a child feel bad, guilty, or ashamed in order to get him to be good. Abusing the attachment conscience evokes deep insecurities in the child and may induce him to shut it right down for fear of being hurt.

A child is receptive to being taken care of or to being directed as long as he experiences himself in dependent mode. Children properly placed in the hierarchy of attachment instinctively want to be taken care of. They spontaneously look up to their parents, turn to them for answers, and defer to them.

These days many people resist the concept of power. As children, some of us knew all too well the power of parents and became painfully aware of its potential for abuse. We are mindful that power leads to temptation and have experienced that those who seek power over others cannot be trusted.