Amy’s Reviews > Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood > Status Update

“…Shame goes after a girl’s character, not her actions. It goes after Who She Is, not What She Did. Shame has toxic, lasting effects and no real benefits. Once shamed, teens are left two terrible options: a girl can agree with the shaming parent and conclude that she is, indeed, the bad one, or she can keep her self-esteem intact by concluding that the parent is the bad one. Either way, someone loses.”