Patrícia Marques’s Reviews > The Queen's Code > Status Update

"A man's need for sex is more intense than most women can imagine. Unhealthy men do not stop to examine the appropriateness of meeting their needs with a child. This makes them dangerous people. It is never appropriate with a child. These people usually may not mean harm but they cause it nevertheless. I am so very sorry."

"As a female, the instinct to please and avoid displeasing is incredibly powerful. Our instincts tell us that our lives depend upon being liked, being found agreeable, and not upsetting or disappointing anyone. Grown women find it difficult to say 'no' when there is the slightest chance it will anger a man.”

"It does mean you give up the practice of treating men as if they are misbehaving and deserve to be punished. It does mean you challenge the attitude that men's power must be limited for women to be safe."

"If I told the truth," Kimberlee began, "every time I've emasculated a man, though I felt glee in the moment, it reinforced my own feelings of weakness. Since I always did it out of fear or frustration, that's what got magnified."

Being Single Focused means men do one thing at a time. They put all their attention on that one thing. When a woman asks a question he commits himself to answering that question. He takes it seriously. He goes hunting for the best answer to her question. That takes time.

We assume people know when they have hurt us and that they do not care enough to heal us. More often, folks are unaware of what they have done. If we know that, we can be responsible for getting what we need before the anger builds up and the process of creating bitterness progresses.

(…) women's unconscious behavior is driven by being externally motivated. In other words: responding automatically to the needs and preferences expressed by others. Thus, women keep track of what others expect of them. And adapt without even thinking about it. We assume we adapt because we love them, or respect them, or care about them. But that is not necessarily the case; adapting can be purely instinctive (…)