Taylor L’s Reviews > Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men > Status Update

According to his mindset, she should believe that his abuse has stopped when he says it has stopped, regardless of what she sees in front of her own eyes.

The more time he has to tear down your self-opinion, the more difficult it will be for you to believe that you deserve better treatment.
The more time he has to hurt you emotionally, the more likely your energy and initiative are to diminish, so that it gets harder to muster the strength to get out.

When a woman gets called names or gets shoved or slapped, she at least knows what her partner did to her. But after a manipulative interaction she may have little idea what went wrong; she just knows that she feels terrible, or crazy, and that somehow it seems to be her own fault.

Inside the abuser's mind, there is a world of beliefs, perceptions, and responses that fits together in a surprisingly logical way. His behavior does make sense. Underneath the facade of irrationality and explosiveness, there is a human being with a comprehensible—and solvable—problem.
But he doesn't want you to figure him out.