Carrington Curphy’s Reviews > Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely > Status Update

“Because the need to be loved and accepted runs so deep, we find ourselves doing things we never thought possible just to try to satisfy those desires. What starts off as a seemingly small compromise can easily become a complete contradiction to the people we long to be. We set things in motion that we never intended, all because we missed the miracle of His presence and promise in the midst of the mess.”

“I'll even take it a step further and say that if we've been exposed to a teaching that we know we need to implement and we don't make any changes, that's a clue that the hardening of that part of our heart is in process.
Inspiration and information without personal application will never amount to transformation.”

“You are more susceptible to Satan's schemes when you are feeling rejected. Emotional pain will scream for relief, and it's so easy to start justifying thoughts and actions outside God's will.

Truth is the perfect tranquilizer. The enemy's power is rendered powerless in the presence of God's promises.”

1. One rejection = future failures
2. ≠ a bad label, find what is right for me
3. God may want to invite you to something else
4. For my protection
5. Ask the "what" questions
6. Keep the negative reactions off the Internet
7. Rejection may leave a time gap. Use time for the other parts of you.
8. Liability or asset?
9. Short-term setback, not permanent condition
10. Breaking be the making-make me stronger!

“Into that space of not understanding, we simply must state, "God, I don't understand this situation. But I do understand Your goodness to me. I thank You for the protection that is part of this rejection even when I can't see it. I trust You."

“There is an abundant need… your exact brand of beautiful” abundance vs scarcity mindset and how it relates to the more modern saying that “her success does not threaten mine”

James 3:14-15 ESV if jealousy is another emotion I’ve had that comes from rejection

Gifts from rejection: made less to have room for your turn to be great, being lonely because Jesus then gives compassion and so can we, and finally silence to hear God.

The Biblical story of Hannah in 1 Samuel. For the “look[ing] up toward heaven in utter frustration” moments
Suspicion of God. Forgiving. For. Giving.

“The lesson was this: Anything that infuses us with humility is good. Even if it feels a bit like humiliation in the moment, the workings of humility within are a gift.”

If I do the corrective experience chart, perhaps pride is a feeling that came from rejection. And this book gives James 4:6 as a verse about the proud… that the humble get grace

“"Me too" and "you do belong" are powerful words… soothing statements that calm and heal, beautiful realities for us to receive from God personally and believe.

Let your past rejection experiences work for you instead of against you by allowing them to help you sense the possible pain behind other people's reactions.”