A’s Reviews > Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are > Status Update

We’ve survived what we feared. But can we survive the remembering?

Healthy relationships don’t feel threatening. Loving relationships don’t feel cruel.

…it’s important to not cross over into demanding that our needs are another person’s responsibility. And we must not let other people demand that meeting their needs should be our responsibility.

It’s my responsibility not to let another person’s actions and expectations wear me down to the worst version of myself.

If you have given someone access to your emotions and they are irresponsible and don’t consider how their actions are affecting you, pay attention. You’ll know it by the amount of anxiety that stirs up when they are around. The person who continues to break your heart isn’t in a place to properly care for your heart.

Proverbs 20:5 says, “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”

…we can’t enable bad behavior in ourselves and others and call it love. We can’t tolerate destructive patterns and call it love. And we can’t pride ourselves on being loyal and longsuffering in our relationships when it’s really perpetrating violations of what God says love is.