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But the thing is, the minute I feel I’ve found the right distance, the rules change, and it feels the other person is too close. Love can’t change what’s wrong with me, because love feels threatening. It’s the thing that made me break down before my wedding. Being loved is the problem, because love is a demand — when you’re loved, someone wants more of you.
- Michael

Mr Grosz? I don’t really have a house in France. You do know that, don’t you?
- Patient

Even now it’s very hard for me to trust my feelings. But when you laugh it means you believe my feelings, my reality. When you laugh, I know that you see things exactly the way I do — that you wouldn’t have said no, that you’d have let me come home.
- Lily

Experience has taught me that our childhoods leave in us stories like this — stories we never found a way to voice, because no one helped us to find the words. When we cannot find a way of telling our story, our story tells us — we dream these stories, we develop symptoms, or we find ourselves acting in ways we don’t understand.
- Stephen Grosz