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Well said, Kara! I ask myself the same.
They write what sells well, it means readers like and demand more(?) I thought it was an older generation, who think the way, but apparently also young readers find all these tropes appealing. As long as women push themselves to be 'saint' and bash OWs, who live different and live more casual, slut-shaming will be present. I also noticed, that many readers tend to trash female characters for being strong=bitch(?), for not forgive men immediately, to be independent and and and. And at the same time they justify many abhorrent mistakes males do. Women bashing women is low, lame and low.
I would be probably the last person to block you for your POV 🤣🤣🤣.

Well said Alex been wondering the same things, it’s like so double standard and sexist

I love that it's okay to be a physically and emotionally abusive misogynist so long as you have abs, a big d*ck and money. Strong and independent women in romance novels either need to have their "wild spirit broken" or the chaste and repressed need to be indoctrinated into the "cult of the c*ck" to make them better. Please, why the hell is there not just a simple series of A meets B, falls in love, deals with life's complications and then is happy?

You guys are all 100% right. Love the comments.

@Alex: I knew you'd be right there with me, especially with the slut-shaming. It shows up everywhere, and serves no purpose other than what Mimi said - to keep women from being sexually independent.

@ Maheswari: Yep - double standard is right. No one does more than roll their eyes at a promiscuous man.

@Mimi: That right there is one of my biggest pet peeves, and it is all over popular media - the idea that only boys want sex. Girls should have to be talked into it. Ridiculous that this idea still exists in this century!

@Edward: Too true. There are so many behaviors that are abusive and wrong that are being assigned to heroes, that if a normal-looking guy did them, cops would be called. That's just messed up, and it perpetuates the idea that women need to be looked after and taught how to behave by a man.

I hate to say this, but I feel like it has to be pointed out. 😩 Single men with children are considered a catch and it makes them sexy to be a dad. Single women with children “have baggage”. Men don’t always want to raise another man’s child, but that’s less of an issue for women. The anthropologist in me loves the evolutionary implication and the feminist in me hates it.

Amara wrote: "I hate to say this, but I feel like it has to be pointed out. 😩 Single men with children are considered a catch and it makes them sexy to be a dad. Single women with children “have baggage”. Men do..."

Logically, I know you're right. Emotionally, I read romance for the thrill of a love story, not to be reminded that women are second-class citizens. I like leaving real life behind when I read romance.

Oh, I completely agree with you. I want to enter fantasy world myself when I read romance. 😀🤷🏼‍♀️

uh I love you. Two posts in a row that I feel like could be written by me. One of the reasons why I don't read so much romance lately, I am just tired of all this shit. What's even worse is that it is mostly written by women

Amara wrote: "Oh, I completely agree with you. I want to enter fantasy world myself when I read romance. 😀🤷🏼‍♀️"

Absolutely!

Tina wrote: "uh I love you. Two posts in a row that I feel like could be written by me. One of the reasons why I don't read so much romance lately, I am just tired of all this shit. What's even worse is that it..."

Aw, love you too! I'm sick of the sameness, disappointed in the sisters who keep the cycle going.