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"Any relationship that's designed solely to elicit a reaction from someone else is not only false but a major discredit to anyone who's a part of it."

"Often the thought of pain is actually worse than the pain itself. It's never as bad as you think it's going to be. And you can't get over the heartbreak until you let yourself feel it. Putting down that pint of ice cream may not FEEL like the right thing to do, but if you change your behavior first, your feelings will follow."

"Bridgette glares at the clerk, puts back all of her stuff, and returns to the counter with a copy of Runner's World and two pints of water."

This moment made me feel like jumping up and yelling "Yeah!" for Bridgette/myself. I'm not going to sit around and be sad. I can feel sad. But I'm not going to live sad.

"If we didn't have to live in today's modern world, I would advise you to get rid of your phone now. Because what you need to do above all else is have some distance from the person who is causing you pain. Even if it's the last thing you want, it's the thing you need the most. Self-imposed distance will expedite your recovery more than anything else you do for yourself."

"What did heartbroken people do before phones? Come home and stare at the mailbox? Stand in their driveway and wait for the stagecoach? Run to the Western Union to see if anyone had Morse Coded them? Stare into the sky waiting for the messenger pigeon? The phone is clearly one of the best inventions of all time, but it is also the most lethal weapon during a breakup."

"We become attached to what's familiar and sometimes we hold on to things that are safe and predictable even if they're bad for us. A lot of the pain you're experiencing right now is actually fear. Fear of things being different than how you liked them, fear of never finding another love, fear of being alone, fear of having to fill your time differently. We're afraid of the unknown."

"Can your relationship be fixed? Anything is possible, but we'd say probably not. Because unless there are two people putting on the coveralls and getting down in the trenches with some duct tape and superglue and a fierce determination, it isn't going to happen."

"Your relationship, despite its promise, has ceased to be right for one or both of you. It is, in effect, broken. And starting today, you are not the sort of woman who settles for broken or hangs onto damaged goods. Your life is not a yard sale. It's time to get rid of all the broken stuff that you've been lugging around for years and make the bold decision to start looking for things that work."

"In these first few hours or days or weeks of your breakup, there's one all-important truth that you need to recognize: Some things can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially the loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It's over for a reason, and even if you're in denial about it, deep down inside you probably know what the reason is."

"Staying in a relationship that's on life support isn't going to bring it back to life."