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„Boys parented by patriarchal women are controlled via their longing for maternal closeness. In maternal sadism, the manipulative woman exploits the boy‘s emotional vulnerability to bind him to her will, to subjugate him. This early experience resides at the heart of many a man‘s fear of being intimate with a grown woman.“

(male narrator) I am afraid of sex as sex is defined by the dominant culture, as practiced all around me, and projected onto magazine pages, billboards, and movie screens. I am afraid of sex because I am afraid of domination, cruelty, violence and death. (...) Because sex has hurt me and hurt lots of people I know, and because I have hurt others with sex in the past (...) Yes, I am afraid of sex. How could I not be?

„Boys are not seen as loveable in patriarchal culture.“

„We hear the most about sexist violence in public discourses about rape and abuse by domestic partners. But the most common forms of patriarchal violence those that take place in the home between partriarchal parents and children. The point of such violence is usually to reinforce a dominator model, ...“