Lulu’s Reviews > The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life > Status Update

"When we say, “Damn, watch out, Mark Manson just don’t give a fuck,” we don’t mean that Mark Manson doesn’t care about anything; on the contrary, we mean that Mark Manson doesn’t care about adversity in the face of his goals, he doesn’t care about pissing some people off to do what he feels is right or important or noble."

"To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity."

"If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks about trivial shit that bothers you—your ex-boyfriend’s new Facebook picture, how quickly the batteries die in the TV remote, missing out on yet another two-for-one sale on hand sanitizer—chances are you don’t have much going on in your life to give a legitimate fuck about. And that’s your real problem. Not the hand sanitizer. Not the TV remote."

"Finding something important and meaningful in your life is perhaps the most productive use of your time and energy. Because if you don’t find that meaningful something, your fucks will be given to meaningless and frivolous causes."

"As we get older, with the benefit of experience (and having seen so much time slip by), we begin to notice that most of these sorts of things have little lasting impact on our lives. Those people whose opinions we cared about so much before are no longer present in our lives. Rejections that were painful in the moment have actually worked out for the best. We realize how little attention people pay to the superficial details about us, and we choose not to obsess so much over them. Essentially, we become more selective about the fucks we’re willing to give."

"I believe that today we’re facing a psychological epidemic, one in which people no longer realize it’s okay for things to suck sometimes. When we believe that it’s not okay for things to suck sometimes, then we unconsciously start blaming ourselves. We start to feel as though something is inherently wrong with us, which drives us to all sorts of overcompensation."

"The idea of not giving a fuck is a simple way of reorienting our expectations for life and choosing what is important and what is not."

"Become comfortable with the idea that some suffering is always inevitable—that no matter what you do, life is comprised of failures, loss, regrets, and even death."

"After all, the only way to overcome pain is to first learn how to bear it."

"It's about suffering and how to do it better, more meaningfully, with more compassion and more humility. About moving lightly despite your heavy burdens, resting easier with your greatest fears, laughing at your tears as you cry them. About how to lose and let go."

Unlike the words in the title this book is not subtle at all, but that's exactly what I need right now, I need someone to slap me in the face and scream at me to please care less about stuff