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(…) Comparing the Danish idea of masculinity with the American one, she found that the major difference between them was that in Denmark, men said to “be a man” meant not being a boy.
American men said that to “be a man” was not to be a woman.

”Did you ever wonder why so many men (…) beat their wives up but not their boss? Your boss makes you feel like shit, your boss is an asshole—why don’t you beat him up? Because he has power over you, that’s why. He’s not a legitimate target.”
(…) someone men are entitled to dominate—someone seen as weaker, someone who has less power than them.

‘In the broadest sense, [Allyson] Hobbs told me, passing exists because we categorize bodies into social binaries like race, class, and gender, and where there are binaries, there is usually reward (economic, social) and a price (family, community, identity) to crossing over to the “other” side.’