Matt John’s Reviews > The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World > Status Update

Gay men grow up with a feeling of shame because they don't fit in. The ideal "gay lifestyle" is an unobtainable myth but the struggle to find acceptance often means that men are engaging in attempts to acquire such a lifestlye. Gay men may seem "over the top" or ecelling in their chosen fields as a means to gain acceptance.