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Or she fixes her own. ;)

welcome to my life. I want a man to fix my laptop.

LOL. Well, I'm computer savvy so I don't need anyone to fix mine. ;P

I don't know...my husband still fixes mine and our neighbors and his friends occasionally.

I am NOT computer savvy, but I prefer to fix my own computer. But the luxury of having a man to fix stuff when you need it, sounds pretty good to me.

Any car/power tool/yard work/building or all around fixing that has to be done has my husband's name all over it. He loves that stuff. My hobby is books and his hobby is projects. He always needs to have some fix-it project going on.

I don't know why, but guys with hobbies that include fixing things, is hot. I wonder if its evolution talking here, not be sexist (which I feel that I am, but whatevs).

Yeah, it is nice when you can count on your man to give a rat's behind. Totally not my family.

Nisha wrote: "I don't know why, but guys with hobbies that include fixing things, is hot. I wonder if its evolution talking here, not be sexist (which I feel that I am, but whatevs)."

I think it's hot too. I don't know why, but some guy who has to pay to have his oil changed or his blinker bulb replaced is just not hot for me. Sometimes it's a charming cluelessness, but mostly it's just unattractive.

aww, NU. Both my dad and my brother are fixers. But they have little grasp on etiquette and being romantic (like opening doors for ladies and flowers on special days like my mom's birthday). At least, my bro is trainable and is doing much better now, but my dad, never. I think its because he's Indian (and grew up in India).

My thoughts exactly, Catherine. But sometimes, I wish some of these projects were left to the professionals. Such as plumbing.

Nisha wrote: "aww, NU. Both my dad and my brother are fixers. But they have little grasp on etiquette and being romantic (like opening doors for ladies and flowers on special days like my mom's birthday). At lea..."

Funny story: Back when my husband and I were dating he used to always try to carry everything and open doors for me. I'd always laugh and say I could do it myself. It eventually became a contest between us. One time I was reaching out to open the car door when I got hip checked and fell down. I looked up to see him holding the door open for me and grinning. It's a hilarious memory. :D

sounds cute :) I know that opening doors is something we can do for ourselves, but when guys don't, it doesn't say good things about them.

Well, I always expect people to open doors for those behind them, but if you mean specifically "guy behaviors" like opening car doors, I just find that silly. I'd rather have a man do something substantial that required a lick of effort or thought, like wash dishes or anything else you can think of, than something just for show like that (because both of our wrists are functioning and can open doors, I'm sure). When you can count on him, that means a lot. It takes a weight off your shoulders. What else is the point of a relationship if you're going to have as many burdens as you did alone?

And if he opened car doors on top of that, that's fine too. ;)

NU, *nods* I agree.

Actually, what I'm referring to is the Indian men I know (and I know many and I have talked to their wives about this) are generally considerate and open doors for those behind them. But they neglect to do this when that person happens to be their wife. It's a weird phenomena, but its absolutely true. I've noticed it in action and I surveyed the Indian ladies that I know.

The car door thing, absolutely unnecessary. I'm faster anyhow.

LOL! Exactly, it actually takes longer.

You know, sad as it is, I can believe that. Some guys think that these courtesies are just for show -that you have manners- and that they're not necessary for someone who knows them so well, and besides they expect their wives to be strong, right? Pffft. I don't like this. You should never treat strangers better than your family! You don't have to be smiley all the time. Some bad moods are inevitable, but it's nothing off your back to hold the door.

Well, after all, I come from a culture that has more respect for guests than the actual family.

This is why I'm training my brother otherwise.

Catherine wrote: "Nisha wrote: "aww, NU. Both my dad and my brother are fixers. But they have little grasp on etiquette and being romantic (like opening doors for ladies and flowers on special days like my mom's bir..."

Hmmm...when me and my fiance started dating we had the same thing.
But our 'best moment' was when i practically ran to the door of a restaurant so he would not open it for me.I was so happy I made it I just kept holding the door instead of going trough. It looked like I was holding it for him. He came up to me,and you could just see a big speech bubble above his head with a big '?' :)

haha, poor boy. Did he ever figure it out?

Nisha wrote: "Well, after all, I come from a culture that has more respect for guests than the actual family.

This is why I'm training my brother otherwise."

You'd be surprised how many cultures it's common in. Good thing you're training your brother, LOL.

That is hilarious, Dinjolina. xD

new_user wrote: "Well, I always expect people to open doors for those behind them, but if you mean specifically "guy behaviors" like opening car doors, I just find that silly. I'd rather have a man do something sub..."

I agree that everyone should open doors for the people behind them. Especially when they're carrying something! It's so rude to be right behind someone and have them close the door in your face.

But I admit that a man who opens doors and pulls out chairs and carries things for a women gets more points than those who don't. It's not that I can't do it myself, it's that it impresses me to see a man who still has the manners that I was taught to appreciate when growing up.

new_user wrote: "You'd be surprised how many cultures it's common in. Good thing you're training your brother, LOL."

Most of them? I feel like an orphan when guests come. :)
But I think when it comes to family everybody is nice to you but they kind of think its a waste of time to put full charm mode on for you.
At least when it comes to my family.
I as a girl cousin aka sister aka nice aunt get a sullen heeeey honey!Give me a beer/snack/etc from my male relations while on my female friends they bestow smiles and gallantry :) lol

Sniff :( :)

Alright, its universal. So the least a man should do is open the door and fix things for me. :)

LOL! Yup, universal. Get as much as you can out of 'em because they sure as heck don't do things voluntarily/out of the kindness of their hearts, LOL.