Noora’s Reviews > Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It > Status Update

Temporal distancing (page 62)
Saying your own name (page 68)
The frequency illusion
"And I wanted to do what was best for Lebron James and what Lebron James is going to do to make him happy"
Anecdotal evidence vs. scientific evidence
A high usage of 1st person singular pronoun, a phenomenon called I-Talk is a reliable marker of negative emotion" (Page 72)
Larry Nassar

Zooming out / dustancing (very important)

Solomon's paradox
Lincoln's melancholy

emotional pain has a physical component (broken up buddies)
stress is an adaptive response, but not in chronic cases

there are two worrying features in social media: empathy and time

cyberbullying
not letting time pass
overshare
fuel other people's chatter
social-comparison
(share normal life only)
people prefer to share about themselves than receive money :)))

=> more sharing ~ less support

We share our intense feelings (bad ones) more with others -> people have a capacity to hear bad news -> they are repelled from us -> we don't receive support -> isolation and loneliness

"It's not as if we go around calling friends to say : Hey, I feel fairly normal today" :))

Chatter steals working memory capacity. Ruins executive funnctions. Unlinking us from automatic behaviors.

Working memory = inner ear + inner voice

Verbal development ~ emotional development

Language plays a critical role in how we control ourselves.