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Absolutely dying at how the trick to avoiding co-rumination (talking about negative events or feeling as a feedback loop for more negative feelings)
Acknowledge feelings but put situation on perspective: Talk to self or others like the NYPD Hostage Negotiations Team! Active Listening->Empathy->Rapport->Influence->Behavioral Change
— Jan 05, 2023 12:12PM
Acknowledge feelings but put situation on perspective: Talk to self or others like the NYPD Hostage Negotiations Team! Active Listening->Empathy->Rapport->Influence->Behavioral Change
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The power of placebos and rituals doesn't reside in Supernatural forces. Their benefits lie instead and their capacity to activate chatter Fighting Tools that we carry inside us.
— Jan 11, 2023 09:36AM
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subtly aiding people we are very close to who find themselves submerged in chatter: Affectionate Touch activates the brain's reward circuitry/ triggers stress relieving hormones. Affectionate Touch is so potent one set of studies found one second of contact on the shoulder led people with low self esteem to be less anxious about death and feel more connected with others.
— Jan 06, 2023 05:16AM
M.M.
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"Invisible Support" : formula for helping others without making them feel bad or undermining "self efficacy"
Any surreptitious practical support like: taking care of house work without being asked, or creating more quiet space for the person to work."
Damn, this is my kink.
— Jan 06, 2023 05:10AM
Any surreptitious practical support like: taking care of house work without being asked, or creating more quiet space for the person to work."
Damn, this is my kink.
M.M.
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Distraction vs Distancing
Distance Self Talk techniques:
Use your own name to view the situation distantly to free up executive function and think logically, less emotionally.
The "Universal You" can be comforting. Things that are accepted as normal occurrences or part of life even if they are painful are easier to cope with.
— Jan 04, 2023 01:55PM
Distance Self Talk techniques:
Use your own name to view the situation distantly to free up executive function and think logically, less emotionally.
The "Universal You" can be comforting. Things that are accepted as normal occurrences or part of life even if they are painful are easier to cope with.
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"Genes + Environment = Who We Are"
"Just because you have a certain gene doesn't mean it actually affects you. Imagine that DNA is a piano buried deep in your cells. The keys are all your genes which will be played in a variety of ways. Some will never be pressed others will be struck frequently and in steady combinations. Part of what distinguishes me from you is how these keys are pressed. That's gene expression"
— Dec 26, 2022 05:19PM
"Just because you have a certain gene doesn't mean it actually affects you. Imagine that DNA is a piano buried deep in your cells. The keys are all your genes which will be played in a variety of ways. Some will never be pressed others will be struck frequently and in steady combinations. Part of what distinguishes me from you is how these keys are pressed. That's gene expression"
