Dan’s Reviews > Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief > Status Update

"It's typically American to equate healing with doing something. When we have a problem, we fix it, and we prefer to do it quickly. But fixing is not the same as healing; in fact it can easily get in the way of healing . . . Healing happens not through doing but through feeling."
- Elio Frattaroli

" . . . the course of grief, once past the acute period, is to emerge and reemerge, moving from the foreground to the background, rising and falling."

"Like love, grief can't be constrained by time and space."

"When we disconnect from our grief, we disconnect from ourselves. When we disconnect from ourselves, we disconnect from others and from the natural world. It is an insidious cycle of unnecessary suffering that pervades families, communities, cultures, and generations. By trying to circumvent suffering, we magnify it."

“Traumatic death provokes traumatic grief. And traumatic death refers to any sudden and unexpected death . . . When someone we love dies traumatically, we feel frighteningly uprooted, markedly insecure, and our ability to trust in the world feels gravely threatened—and it is gravely threatened.”