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You will experience your partner as "lacking" in some way. Or, you'll perceive yourself as "lacking" a partner altogether. But the minute the hungry ghost gains enough awareness to see that in truth, a mechanism of ever-present, seamless, circular, self-confirming fulfillment is at work, then he perceives that fulfillment is actually much more real than deprivation.

Some folks... are willing to feel highly valued with money but are totally unwilling to be highly valued with love, or vice versa. Other folks are massively uncomfortable with all kinds of "being valued" sensations. Your havingness level is deeply connected to who you know yourself to be... who you know yourself to be is a kind of fictional blueprint that defines how much good stuff you'll let yourself have.

This material world we live in is a world of polar opposites--love and hate, joy and grief, hot and cold, night and day, wet and dry, birth and death, health and sickness. If the Self that we are didn't want to experience all of this dizzying array of polar variety, it would have just stayed floating in cosmic undifferentiated bliss. But as it happens, our Selves are more adventurous than that.

...take all the embracing-approval-seeking-inherent-perfection-perceiving power of your spirit, tell your ego "thanks but you can shut the fuck up for a while," and send [that power] down to your actual life, body, emotions, and present situation[...] your life on Earth--right now, right here, in this animal, human body--is actually exactly what it has always wanted to celebrate with its exultant songs of perfection.