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some pains will take significantly more time to digest; yet if we allow ourselves to feel our pain, we cut short its ability to drive us in circles, to distraction, or to cause us to do harm. p201

We cannot simultaneously entertain vengeful thoughts and prayers of loving-kindness for very long. p190

We cannot enforce rules of behavior on those for whom matching our expectaions is simply impossible. p162

A thoughtful response is both kind and honest. After all, if we are only kind, we are permissive; if we are only honest, we are brutal. p146

While we may believe we are talking with the other, in fact, we are talking primarily to ourselves....p102

It is in our genuine meetings with one another that we engage in an ongoing process of becoming. p103

While our deeper self is sewn in to the fabric of our being, we are not necessarily acquainted with it. p90

Are we perhaps limited in our imagination, unable to imagine a world where all matter equally and where no one's characteristics are held as a liability, as a source of shame, or as a reason for self-congratulatory arrogance? p87

Unfortunately, when we are inside a conflict, our capacity to think and see clearly can be compromised to the degree that only in hindsight do we recognize what was actually going on. p57

the step from othering to dehumanizing the other is a very short one. p31