lelex’s Reviews > The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love > Status Update

White feminism will be our doom😔

“The rules of patriarchal manhood remind them that it is their duty as men to refuse relatedness”

Except for family, wich is why they cling so hard into their “role” in the family, cause its the only place where they can experience any kind of relatedness

“Contemporary patriarchy has offered disappointed male workers a trade off: the perks of manhood that depressed economy takes away can be redeemed in the realm of the sexual through domination of women. When that world of sexuality is not fulfilling, males age.”

“Work stands in the way of love for most men then because the long hours they work often drain their energies; there is little or no time left for emotional labor, for doing the work of love.”

How are we supposed to do so much inner work and deconstruct so much when we’re barely able to exist as people?

“Some males, felt that changes in the valuation and nature of work, as well as competition with women for jobs, robbed them of the pride in being providers, creating what she calls a "masculinity crisis."

“Sex is, presented as the road to real inti-macy, complete closeness, as the arena in which it is okay to openly love, to be tender and vulnerable and yet remain safe, to not feel so deeply alone. Sex is the one place sensuality seems to be permissible, where we can be gentle with our own bodies and allow ourselves our overflowing passion.“

“Rather than change, patriarchal males and females have exploited the logic of gender equality in the sexual realm to encourage women to be advocates of patriarchal sex and to pretend, like their male counterparts, that this is sexual freedom.”

Modern day white feminism is counterproductive

“Patriarchal violence is a mental illness”

“They explain that the "sexual craving is not for sex, but for something deeper."…For the patriarchal male, be he straight or gay, addictive sexuality is fundamentally about the need to constantly affirm and reaffirm one's selfhood.”
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“ I learned about sex when I was nine years old. I was giving blow jobs at ten. While other kids were out playing with guns, I was learning how to 'please' a man.”
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