All My Friends Are Fictional’s Reviews > The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love > Status Update

“Structure is not what makes you safe from hard feelings — your ability to take care of yourself is what counts. So whatever structure you choose, hold it fairly loosely. Your agreements are not taking care of you; you are.”

I love this book but some things just piss me off so much: “A final note about love: One remedy for the fear of not being loved is to remember how good it feels to love someone. If you're feeling unloved and you want to feel better, go love someone and see what happens.”
FFS 🤦🤣

“Let us remember that feeling jealousy (or any other emotion) is not a crime. Only actions can be a crime. Feelings are feelings, and they're there whether you acknowledge them or not. […] "Acting out" means doing things you don't understand, driven by emotions you have refused to be aware of, in ways you may regret later.”