Maria Vargas’s Reviews > The List > Status Update

We are all the center of our own universes. Even if your life is full of people you love and care for, you have to breathe for yourself first.

Love might feel like an achievement, but it is rarely dependent on merit.

If I were to make a List now, though, it would have only one line: someone who truly enjoys being a person in the world.

“The List makes you face outward, which is never where the relationship is going to be. The process of looking for love is really a relationship with yourself.”

People tend to cling to anything that claims to mediate between desire and chaos, especially if it has just a few easy-to-follow rules.