Vanessa Wolf’s Reviews > Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience > Status Update

“Even when a parents pass away, or when it becomes necessary for an adult child to cut off contact, the grief of that relationship lives on,”

“It is not our job to make sure our child is close to all the adults in their life, it’s our job to make sure they can be close enough with us to process whatever other dynamics they are experiencing,”

“A secure parent is a conflict guide,”
Just going to whisper this to myself over and over when my kid turns 2

“So here are 4 steps to living a conflict free life with your children.
You can’t.
You really can’t
I’m so sorry but you can’t,”

This had me dying

“Notice I did not say we should tell them they are perfect, or that they can do no wrong, or put them on a pedestal. I said adore them,”

“People who want their kids to feel loved and secure will mistakenly think I’m saying we should let our children have whatever they want when they are upset or disregulated. Please do not do that. It will make them dependent on consumerism to regulate,”

“No one can enter a constant kumbaya stage with their children. That’s horse doo-doo. Every parent and child is destined to have seasons of strife and struggle,”