Cassendur Mus’s Reviews > Engagement: Preparing for Marriage > Status Update

“Church membership call us outside ourselves and gives us a context for serving others. It is good for you to be reminded that you two are not the most important people in the world. Couples who serve the body of Christ will find it more natural to serve each other in marriage.” (Pg. 67)

“Why are you getting married? What do you hope to accomplish together with your spouse? When you picture married life, what did you envision?”

“Maybe you picture a lifetime of raising children, sharing experiences, and going on vacations together. But as much as I hate to say it, none of those things are guaranteed.”

“Create a plan for how you will handle a situation involving a serious disagreement about an important matter. How can the wife express her concerns as well? Can you agree that you will be open to outside counsel if one or both of you find it necessary?” (Pg. 46)

“Why is hard to be under authority? Think back over your life - which leaders have been the easiest for you to follow? Which have been the most difficult?”

“A Christian husband gives himself up for his wife - not by dying on the cross for her (she already has a Savior) but by putting her needs ahead of his own. A Christian husband will need to sacrifice his time, his ambitions, and his personal preferences in order to love his wife well.”

“Idolatry kills marriages. Your spouse is not meant for the task of filling your heart’s deepest longings. They will never be able to love you enough, make you feel good enough about yourself, serve you enough, or bring you enough of a purpose for your life.” (Pg. 32)

“Sin works against the health of marriages. Sometimes patterns of sin develop imperceptibly over time, and a couple can settle into long-term habits of bitterness, anger, and resentment without even realizing it.” (Pg. 29)

“In our choice of whom to marry, we might instinctively look for the “best catch” we can possibly get. We want someone who is pretty enough, smart enough, and finally secure — and all things are fine; But the Bible rarely talks about marriage in terms of how much we enjoy it or what we get out of it. God’s Word focuses on the obligations that we have in our marriage; to show love to our spouses”

“God’s love is not the love a groom has for his bride when she looks radiant and beautiful on their wedding day. Nor is it the delight that a bride feels when she sees the groom looking dashing in his tuxedo. The Lord’s love is much greater than the love of this ‘honeymoon stage.’”

“Are there areas in your life in which you have taken sin lightly? Remember that God takes sin so seriously that it cost him his Son to restore us.” (Pg. 20)