haley’s Reviews > The Gifts of Imperfection > Status Update

* less blame, more accountability

* “if we want to fully experience love and belonging we must believe we are worthy of love and belonging.”

* shame vs guilt: “Guilt = I did something bad. Shame = I am bad. Shame is about who we are, and guilt is about our behaviors.”

* “our unexpressed ideas, opinions, and contributions don’t just go away. They are likely to fester and eat away at our worthiness.”

* Sometimes we miss out on the bursts of joy because we’re too busy chasing down extraordinary moments.

•www.selfcompassion.org

foreboding joy

* “I felt like every day was a walk through a gauntlet of gremlins. Their voices can be loud and unrelenting: “What if I think I’m enough, but others don’t?” “What if I let my imperfect self be seen and known, and nobody likes what they see?”

* “when we don’t care at all what people think and we’re immune to hurt, we’re also ineffective at connecting”