elstaffe’s Reviews > The (Other) F Word: A Celebration of the Fat and Fierce > Status Update

"You deserve to live a life that is free from shame and filled with freedom. Believe me when I say that you can start your own internal revolution by reclaiming and reframing one word at a time." (245/306)

"A happy person doesn’t try to ruin another person’s happiness. This is a fundamental truth that I keep in mind when someone hurts me; I hope that you can eventually do the same." (243/306)

"In life we often place emphasis on low-level tasks and procrastinate on larger issues, wondering all the while why we aren’t seeing progress." (180/306)

"It’s easy for us to accept blame for our abuse, because we’re taught that we can make the abuse stop if we just—poof!—lose weight. ... The truth is that it’s much, much easier for a jerk to stop being a jerk than for a fat person to become a thin person. Someone can choose to stop being a bigot—instant results guaranteed. The same isn’t true for a person’s weight." (111/302)

"It doesn’t make me feel good knowing that the few people making clothing for fat bodies make them specifically for fat bodies, rather than for all different types of people." (65/306) I disagree with this. I'd rather get something from a specialist than someone trying to be good at everything and ending up being good at nothing

"All the spheres of your life deserve to engage with you when you’re happy, not just one person. No one appreciates being forgotten when their friend falls in love, only to be remembered when that friend suddenly needs help." (47/306)

"Avoid This Trope: Don’t Sidekick Yourself" (42/306)

"You’re not waiting for love. You’re cultivating a totally you, totally full life where love is welcome to walk in the door at any moment. Because YOU are a complete person already. You’re not looking for another half, Fat Babe. You’re looking for someone worthy of all that love you have to give." (42/306)

"The better informed you are, the more the decisions you make are genuinely yours. But no matter where you get your information, study it. Question it." (25)

"Medical intervention is jammed down fat peoples’ throats, rather literally in the case of feeding tube diets, which is a real thing that doctors prescribe. Feeding tubes are a valuable tool for people who benefit from them; but ... feeding tubes do not support someone in developing a better relationship with solid food. But nothing is too risky or untested to try in the name of 'weight control.'" (22)